Relationship Advice: Sharing is caring

So last night I was chatting with my partner on the phone when he mentioned something that caught my attention, I asked him about it and he said he thought I knew! (The nerve on him!!!). I calmly and collected said no I did not know because he never told me about it. After he apologised we continued talking when again I learned something I didn't know but this time when I asked his response was "I didn't want to burden you with my problems" I don't know about you but I got upset because as thoughtful as that is he decided for me without asking me first. When you are in a relationship honest, trust come with a little tag called sharing with one another not just the good stuff but the bad stuff too. If I only know of the good stuff how on earth am I going to deal with that one bad thing when it pops it's ugly head?

I understand feeling ashamed, embarrassed even annoyed for whatever you feel or think is an I inconvenience to your partner but if you can't share your most difficult and upsetting thing in your life why do you have that partner in your life? I am sure you can tell from my tone that I am upset and honestly I am but I am mostly saddened because he felt its his burden to deal with no OURS.

I share everything with my partner maybe a bit too much but I want him to know what's going on with me both inside and out, I don't pick and choose because I prefer he heard it from me first and not third parties especially with how people how are out to ruin us.

My advice to anyone who wants it and is going through what I am, don't feel it's best to only share the good stuff because what creates a stronger relationship and partnership is sharing both the good and the bad. Love, trust and honest is usually tested during the hardships in life not always when the going is good.

Thank you for reading my rambling, take care and God bless.

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::The Myrabev Life::: Relationship Advice: Sharing is caring

Saturday, December 14, 2013

Relationship Advice: Sharing is caring

So last night I was chatting with my partner on the phone when he mentioned something that caught my attention, I asked him about it and he said he thought I knew! (The nerve on him!!!). I calmly and collected said no I did not know because he never told me about it. After he apologised we continued talking when again I learned something I didn't know but this time when I asked his response was "I didn't want to burden you with my problems" I don't know about you but I got upset because as thoughtful as that is he decided for me without asking me first. When you are in a relationship honest, trust come with a little tag called sharing with one another not just the good stuff but the bad stuff too. If I only know of the good stuff how on earth am I going to deal with that one bad thing when it pops it's ugly head?

I understand feeling ashamed, embarrassed even annoyed for whatever you feel or think is an I inconvenience to your partner but if you can't share your most difficult and upsetting thing in your life why do you have that partner in your life? I am sure you can tell from my tone that I am upset and honestly I am but I am mostly saddened because he felt its his burden to deal with no OURS.

I share everything with my partner maybe a bit too much but I want him to know what's going on with me both inside and out, I don't pick and choose because I prefer he heard it from me first and not third parties especially with how people how are out to ruin us.

My advice to anyone who wants it and is going through what I am, don't feel it's best to only share the good stuff because what creates a stronger relationship and partnership is sharing both the good and the bad. Love, trust and honest is usually tested during the hardships in life not always when the going is good.

Thank you for reading my rambling, take care and God bless.

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6 Comments:

At 14 December 2013 at 05:41 , Blogger Eloquent Obi said...

oh i understand that completely. and i am sorry that happened. it happens to me a lot too with me and my love and we are not married yet. i tell him everything b/c that is just me and i think women in general. it is a pride thing for them. he will come around and try to be less forgetful in telling you things with time. i used to think if he is not telling me, then who is he telling, he must be telling someone else. that is not the case at all. men just sometimes keep it in to make a plan before coming to their partner to explain or talk. continue to love and trust him as you have and keep your part of continuing to tell him what you see fit. *hugs*

 
At 14 December 2013 at 08:18 , Blogger Miranda Malanga said...

Thank you for stopping by and sharing I am glad I was not going mad and being irrational. I have taken your advice on board and will use it in the future. I just felt excluded from his life because he was picking and choosing what to share with me. Thanks again eloquent

 
At 14 December 2013 at 20:29 , Blogger sueannie said...

I agree with you but I have been through this myself when I have to say something but It never seems like the right time. I agree once it comes out and all is it the open I feel free and my relationships are stronger.

 
At 14 December 2013 at 20:56 , Blogger Miranda Malanga said...

Its never the right time but you make it the right time. thank you for sharing and stopping by.

 
At 14 December 2013 at 22:00 , Blogger Eloquent Obi said...

i hope it helps! but i hope you do not have to use it for a while as he gotten the point!

 
At 14 December 2013 at 22:57 , Blogger Miranda Malanga said...

Yes I hope so too but now I know that should life throw such an obstacle in my way I know how to deal with it. I appreciate you coming and stopping by again. Thank you

 

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