It's easier said than done but a relationship without trust is no relationship at all. I have learned first hand in past relationships that without trust you have nothing, your love will not last without trust because trust is the foundation and without a solid foundation your building will fall. You may ask why will it fall? Let's take this scenario:
"You find out that your partner had been cheating on you doesn't matter how long for but it has happened, most of us will often enough go for the self blame. What did I do or not do to make my partner cheat on me? I do not advocate cheating and I don't care your reasoning cheating is cheating plain and simple. Just because your partner don't give you what you want or need don't mean you get a free pass at cheating NO you DONT if your not happy and after talking about it nothing happens it's time to go so that once you free you can do what ever when ever. Now back to our scenario, after you forgive your partner and start feeling or know for a fact that you will never trust them again that's the time when the end or shall I say agony starts because:
1. Anytime they go out you start to imagine the worst
2. Anytime they talking to a friend on the phone you think something else
3. Every time they are late coming home or meeting up at agreed time you think something else
This is not and shall never be healthy, some of you might be saying I wouldn't even waste time thinking those things about my cheating partner but what you forgetting is you not thinking about them is also the end.
I will not claim to be an expert or even tell you how you should deal with it but I will share with you how I dealt with it in past relationships. Ladies that song by P!NK ~ blow me one last kiss! that speaks volume and I did it before pink sung it also Ceelo Green's cry baby ha!.I did the
1. I cried and died a little inside
2. I let go, I really had enough
3. I started to live my life, it's too short wasting on sh*t heads
4. I brought myself back into the dating world, I looked after and still do look after my happiness myself
5. I respect me first
So to end this unwarranted relationship advice post I wanted to say to you my readers, your priority should be number 1 = YOU, you are in charge of your own happiness. Until next time my lovelies, where ever you are happy day/night and blessings to God.
Labels: Cheating, Relationships