Week 55: Personal Confessions ~ It's never too late just start

The Myrabev life

It's the 12th month, the year has come to an end. It's time to sit down and reflect on your relationships for the past 12 months, how do you think you have done? Could you have done something different? Do you have any regrets? Are there things that you wish you had done and/or said to someone? What words would you take back if given the chance? What occurrences would you do differently if given the chance? 

I am sure you are reading this and somethings are coming to mind, you do not have to reveal them to anyone these are for you. I have always said in my many Relationship Advice posts that it's always important to look after number ONE and that is always, I am sure many mother's who are up to their elbows in baby this and that would just want to stab me for saying this especially since I am not a mother and don't know what I am talking about but I will tell you from what I have seen and experienced from my own mother. 

My mother always made time for her self be it at night when her children and husband plus the 7 other people we looked after had gone to sleep. My mother is one woman who functions best after a good 3-hour sleep - I have inherited this and don't like it but helps with my blogging and my 9-5 job. I will not claim it was easy or always possible but she always made sure she had at least 1 hour twice a week to herself and in doing so she was a wonderful mother that she is. You need to take care of you first before anyone else and I am not saying physically always but mentally and emotionally too, you just need some time to switch off your brain and think me me me and then back to your daily life. A more relaxed and happy you is a more and happy household, I once heard on the bus going home two older men discussing something when one said 'a happy wife is a happy home' and I agree because ladies (gents too) I know so many times we put on this face of being in total control and happy when inside we falling apart. You are basically a kettle overfilled with water and boiling, you know what will happen once you pass your melting point! all hell will break lose so make sure you take time for you.
Relationships are not easy they need work but they were never meant to be hard either, they were made to be enjoyed and for two people to be happy together in oneness and enjoy what the world has to offer. There those of us who have been in relationships for so long that we have kind of gone and forgotten how it started and there are those who still living in  that past and neglecting the present. We need to be present in our lives and we need to start appreciating one another. Do some romantic gestures and I am not sharing buying expensive gifts, as lovely as those are I think the over tired mothers/fathers would rather have an hour to a day to themselves. The neglected lover would much rather have a romantic gesture - cook a meal or bring some flowers or do something the other loves and enjoys or just sit there and listen.

There are so many things I wish I had done this year, words I wish I never said and occurrences I wish never happened but there is no point in focusing on that. At this present moment in time I only have the chance, the opportunity to do something different. To say I am sorry, I love you, I believe in you or even to just sit down and listen. It's never to late you just have to start and move forward.


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::The Myrabev Life::: Week 55: Personal Confessions ~ It's never too late just start

Tuesday, December 09, 2014

Week 55: Personal Confessions ~ It's never too late just start

The Myrabev life

It's the 12th month, the year has come to an end. It's time to sit down and reflect on your relationships for the past 12 months, how do you think you have done? Could you have done something different? Do you have any regrets? Are there things that you wish you had done and/or said to someone? What words would you take back if given the chance? What occurrences would you do differently if given the chance? 

I am sure you are reading this and somethings are coming to mind, you do not have to reveal them to anyone these are for you. I have always said in my many Relationship Advice posts that it's always important to look after number ONE and that is always, I am sure many mother's who are up to their elbows in baby this and that would just want to stab me for saying this especially since I am not a mother and don't know what I am talking about but I will tell you from what I have seen and experienced from my own mother. 

My mother always made time for her self be it at night when her children and husband plus the 7 other people we looked after had gone to sleep. My mother is one woman who functions best after a good 3-hour sleep - I have inherited this and don't like it but helps with my blogging and my 9-5 job. I will not claim it was easy or always possible but she always made sure she had at least 1 hour twice a week to herself and in doing so she was a wonderful mother that she is. You need to take care of you first before anyone else and I am not saying physically always but mentally and emotionally too, you just need some time to switch off your brain and think me me me and then back to your daily life. A more relaxed and happy you is a more and happy household, I once heard on the bus going home two older men discussing something when one said 'a happy wife is a happy home' and I agree because ladies (gents too) I know so many times we put on this face of being in total control and happy when inside we falling apart. You are basically a kettle overfilled with water and boiling, you know what will happen once you pass your melting point! all hell will break lose so make sure you take time for you.
Relationships are not easy they need work but they were never meant to be hard either, they were made to be enjoyed and for two people to be happy together in oneness and enjoy what the world has to offer. There those of us who have been in relationships for so long that we have kind of gone and forgotten how it started and there are those who still living in  that past and neglecting the present. We need to be present in our lives and we need to start appreciating one another. Do some romantic gestures and I am not sharing buying expensive gifts, as lovely as those are I think the over tired mothers/fathers would rather have an hour to a day to themselves. The neglected lover would much rather have a romantic gesture - cook a meal or bring some flowers or do something the other loves and enjoys or just sit there and listen.

There are so many things I wish I had done this year, words I wish I never said and occurrences I wish never happened but there is no point in focusing on that. At this present moment in time I only have the chance, the opportunity to do something different. To say I am sorry, I love you, I believe in you or even to just sit down and listen. It's never to late you just have to start and move forward.


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18 Comments:

At 9 December 2014 at 07:40 , Blogger Lauren Richardson said...

I love this post. It's so true that we need to take a step back and look at our lives, develop good relationships, and work on the ones we have! Thank you for posting your thoughts, I really loved reading them!

 
At 9 December 2014 at 08:56 , Blogger Esther Ju*Lee said...

I don't think I would have done anything differently in terms with relationships. i think we both made our mistales but we are definitely better for it. i seriously can't imagine how mothers do it though.. they make time for themselves and sacrifice their sleep. all my friends say it.. it's either their work, their kids, or their sleep.. and usually their sleep suffers the most. i love my sleep :P

 
At 9 December 2014 at 09:08 , Blogger Miranda Myrabev said...

Thank you so much Lauren, I am glad you enjoyed reading this post. We all need some time out now and again.

 
At 9 December 2014 at 09:09 , Blogger Miranda Myrabev said...

I too love my 3-hours of sleep and applaud mothers who do more on less, I am glad you have nothing you could have done differently r/ship wise.

 
At 9 December 2014 at 10:04 , Blogger Fiona said...

Another great post Myrabev, you're always so full of wisdom and get me thinking. This year I would have liked to have made more of an effort with my friendships. My anxiety means I don't like to go out much and it has meant I've lost some friendships, they simply don't understand but maybe I could have explained better. As for my romantic relationship, I would have liked if my partner spent more time with me and we could have made time to have date night at least once a month.

 
At 9 December 2014 at 12:33 , Blogger Jamie McG said...

I 100% agree that it's important to take time to take care of yourself. I always take better care of my family after I recharge my own batteries, even if it's just a couple extra hours a week doing my own thing. And I remember someone telling me long ago that you will most likely regret NOT having said something, than saying something and it not quite coming out right. It's better to just say what's on your mind than to just wish you had!

 
At 9 December 2014 at 14:01 , Anonymous Lou @ Mommy Sanest said...

Really great thoughts. I totally agree with you about moms needing to take care of themselves first. I find that while I am usually willing to work out once or twice a week, my usual self-care routines suffer because I am trying to do 10 things at once. It's a tough balance.

 
At 9 December 2014 at 15:03 , Blogger Miranda Myrabev said...

I am glad to hear you find my posts full of wisdom I am humbled. I think for the new year maybe you could sit down with your partner and discuss this openly as for your friends maybe you could have explained better but I think true friends would have stuck with you through and through. Take your time to be comfortable with yourself either be anxiety or be it relationship before you decide to tackle the next hurdle

 
At 9 December 2014 at 15:06 , Blogger Miranda Myrabev said...

It's very important to take care of yourself first and always speak your mind.

 
At 9 December 2014 at 15:07 , Blogger Miranda Myrabev said...

Thank you Lou, I know it's hard but its very important.

 
At 10 December 2014 at 01:34 , Blogger NJ @ A Cookie Before Dinner said...

Oh how I completely agree with this. My mother always used to say that "you cannot give from an empty well." I try my best to get about two hours a day to myself before the kids wake up and start their days. It has made such a difference in how I parent my kids. When they wake, I'm ready for them!

 
At 10 December 2014 at 03:36 , Blogger Miranda Myrabev said...

Your mum is right as you have proven but i think most struggle with finding the best time to give themselves the me me time. Thanks

 
At 10 December 2014 at 05:36 , Blogger Yona Williams said...

OMGoodness...my sweetie is like your Mom (and you)...all he needs is 3 hours of sleep (maybe 4) and he is up and annoying the heck out of me in the middle of the night. Me...I need my sleep. As I reflect, I need to be a little nicer and more patient with my sweetie. I've been kind of snappy lately.

 
At 10 December 2014 at 06:22 , Anonymous Terri Ramsey Beavers said...

Thank you so much for sharing and for opening up about your life and relationships. I can't say that I would do anything different in the relationship department. I didn't stay in as close contact as I would have liked to with a couple of friends who moved away but traveling is difficult for me right now due to permanent back injuries. I could have called more...

 
At 11 December 2014 at 19:34 , Blogger Michelle Hwee said...

Great post! Very inspirational and interesting to read. I love words like that and how they make you reflect and remember what is important in life. My favorite single words are "believe" "love" "happiness" "support" and "kindness" This post reminded me of those words and how we should always be open to each other and to the world.

 
At 12 December 2014 at 18:14 , Blogger Miranda Myrabev said...

awww bless, well you have acknowledged it and know what you want to work on that's the first step

 
At 12 December 2014 at 18:14 , Blogger Miranda Myrabev said...

Sorry about your back issues and thank you

 
At 12 December 2014 at 18:15 , Blogger Miranda Myrabev said...

Thank you Michelle x

 

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