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::The Myrabev Life::: December 2013

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Week 6: Mind Sharing ~ Reflection

Have you ever come to a point in your life where you just want to reflect on your life? I certainly have many a times and in the last 6 months I have seen so much and learned so much I feel like I was there for the last 6 years.

What has the last 6 months taught me? Well I will use the commonly  known sayings "know your friends", "keep your enemies closer" "if they can talk about other people behind their backs trust they can do the same to you". Let's starts with know your friends.

1. Know your friends- my parents always told me if you hang with intelligent people you are more likely to be influenced by them and therefore be intelligent yourself. But as a child you always just want to do your own thing and not always what your parents have said, I hang around people who not only are intelligent but are loyal and trust worthy. I am not perfect and I may have spoken about people behind their backs and not as an excuse but when I do that it's because I can't get to you or through to you, I will ask other people so I can understand the reason am not getting through. Maybe me and my big mouth did or said something which to me may have been nothing to me but to you may have been a big something and to those friends I may have done that too I apologise. I know who my real friends are and I am grateful for them and to them.





2. Keep your enemies close - up until now I did not think I had any need for this statement I mean haters will hate but I never thought I would have to keep my so called enemies close (arms length). I am sure there are people who don't like me because am me or because am blessed or maybe because am black I don't know. But I do know of one person who despite my best efforts seems to think back stabbing me makes them a better person. I had never in my life gotten so angry that I resorted to putting my anger and feelings on Facebook. I am ashamed to think this person brought me to my knees because I stooped to their level. Everyday I learn that they talk about me, stalk me and degrade me just so that I can be isolated and not have any friends. Unfortunately for this person I have so much love, respect and God's knowledge to know that I will never walk alone EVER. What I do not understand is what did I ever do to this person for them to hate me so much. I know people in this world can be two-faced and believe me this one is but I just don't get it, how interesting am I to this person that they feel every waking moment they want to smear my name. This person knows nothing of my life, my plans and my ambitions and to make matters worse this person I can guarantee you will ask me who upset me (hahaha) I can't hack this. My advice to people who going through what am going through feed them nothing because anything they see or hear they twist it and try to break you but your stronger than that I am stronger than that. 

3. If they can talk about others behind their backs they can talk about you - since I finished uni and started working have heard that people talk about me, some tell me it's because I inspire them (I am humbled by this) some I hear it's because they despise my simple mind. I like simple things in life and I flourish on them quite well I am told. There people who believe that such a simple life is a waste of time, having a bf who earns more than God is what they want not someone who earns enough to support you, your family, and maybe a holiday a year. No that's not acceptable I am told. The most funny thing about all this is this person has no love or true friendship in their life but they think I am at a disadvantage because of how simple my life is and they can not comprehend why I go to church. I feel so sorry for this person and yet this person does not see how happy my life is, God has given me so much and I believe all this that I am experiencing, this person who is trying to beat me down is just part of the trials and tribulations of this world. My God knows that I will come out on top not boasting just a matter of fact because God NEVER  gives you more than you can handle. 

Like I have mentioned in my earlier post I am an emotionally driven person and sometimes my emotions get the better out of me and I make mistakes but I am learning like instead of putting my frustrations on Facebook I have decided to always speak to my mother about them first or my partner or my friends. I have learned never to stoop to these people's level and avoid giving them the ammunition to fire at me. 

***Word of advice to my haters, just because I put something on Facebook doesn't mean I am talking about my life sometimes I just watch movies and I comment on them. Even when I write a post or comment about how my partner has pissed me off it does not mean I have broken up with him or I don't love him anymore because my dear if that was to happen only my family and friends would know and I would inbox them not post it directly for your eyes to feast on.***
I feel so much better getting this off my chest and off my mind, now time to pamper me before the closing the year service, NYE fireworks display and a long kiss for my partner. Happy New Year to you all and thanks for reading my little baby blog. 

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Friday, December 27, 2013

Week 5: Heart Bearing ~ MEN!!!!

At the moment as I write this post his pissed me off more than once, I sometimes come to a point where I just want simple things to happen e.g if I ask for something I expect a response either it can be done or it can not be done either way am pleased. He also sometimes reaches a point where he just has water in his head instead of a brain and those times I detest very much.

Life is not perfect and I don't expect it to be daily but I do expect some sort of normalcy so that I don't go crazy and get admitted to the nearest psych ward. I will give you an example.

His working on something with his brother and I am in the next room when his laptop shuts down. I am sure he told me his password but I can't remember and at the risk of locking his computer I call out to him and ask for his password and he screams "just a second". 5 minutes later that "just a second" is still going and my anger is boiling at level 10.  I call out again and he says the same "just a second" what do I do, I go into what he calls the "quite mode" I don't say a thing and I just zone out it pisses him off but that's all I have before I slap him black and blue.

Another example, we talk and decide ok will go shopping after we do a few things for him in town. We head to town do his things and just when we are meant to go shopping and do my thing he says where are you going? Am like shopping like we discussed, he says well have changed my mind I have other things to do? Am like for real for real? He says yes so I just do my 'quiet mode' and he starts complaining about how he hates it when I do the quiet mode for nothing at all. He didn't even realise that he just broke our agreement and he's got the nerve to lecture me.

This may seem trivial to some people but when your brain has had enough anything and everything can make you explode in my case implode.

How do you guys deal with your partners when they p*** you off? I have decided arguing doesn't help me but the "quiet mode" does it apparently carries more punch.

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Thursday, December 26, 2013

Our Christmas Day


So we woke up early, dropped off my brother in law at polish church then we went to my church in Cambridge. The service was good but was made even better being in the presence of family and friends.
Hey guys and dolls!! Merry Christmas and happy boxing day. Today's post is short and sweet just wanted to share with my readers how we spent our Christmas day.
After church we drove to my parents house where we did a BBQ I know crazy but we didn't want a turkey.
We bbq'd sausages, beef and chicken and had this with salads and Zambian style cooked potatoes. Since my parents don't drink we got an alcoholic fruit wine to go with the meal.
My boo and I had purchased some presents for my parents so it was a great join to see them smile after opening their presents.
After presents time was over we chatted for a bit before we went on our way back to my boo's place. At the house we opened our presents, watched movies, ate more food and and. We was the best day ever.

Thanks how we spent our Christmas day. How did you spend yours?

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Tuesday, December 24, 2013

{Co-Hosting} showing some love hump day blog hop

This blog hop was born in true "hippie fashion" with the idea of giving, sharing and spreading LOVE in mind. 
There seems to be so much dark in the world (especially on the news) lately so why don't we band together to help spread more of the peace, LOVE & beauty in the world? 
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Friday, December 20, 2013

{Co~Hosting} My Favourite Posts Show off Weekend Blog Party


Happy Friday! Thank you for joining us for another fun weekend of making friends and finding new blogs! Please welcome my hosts:









Say hello to my December team:

Kim from This Ole Mom

Meg from Meg's Menagerie

Melissa from Deliciously Savvy

Miranda from Myra Bev's Corner




Let's SHOW OFF some of those awesome posts from last week!


Natasha's favorite from last week comes from Jenny's Evolution:
"I've been looking for some ways to make this Christmas special for my son. Christmas cookies and desserts are at the center of making it great. I've been following Jenny's Christmas Cookies series, and I have not been disappointed yet! Great post!"
Stacey gives New Mama Diaries a thumbs up: "These last few months, I seem to have taken on more and more, which has led to me feeling overwhelmed with the day to day. This reminded me that I need to find a way to slow down and stop trying to do so much."



Meg loved this DIY from Taylor-Made Ranch:  " have been wanting to make my own laundry detergent for months and just haven't jumped in and done it yet! This DIY laundry detergent post from the Taylor-Made Ranch Homestead Blog has re-inspired me to give it a try. It's too simple not to!"



Melissa was excited to see this post from Put a Bird In It:  "This grabbed me because my hubby is always a lover of a good cup of hot cocoa as well as his entire family! I am going to do this concept at his family’s Christmas Eve Party… everyone will love it!!! Awesome post and creative idea having a Hot Cocoa Bar!!! Thanks You!!!"



Miranda thought that this post was awesome coming from Lady Blogger:  "I love Yoga but I found it so hard when I initially started to make matters worse we had an 80 year old wonderful lady who used to do the splits like there was not tomorrow, she made it look so easy I was very encouraged to continue. Such a lovely Post."



My favorite goes to Taylor-Made Ranch.  I am very big on supporting non-profit organizations.  Part of my job resposibility at work is to work with non-profits within the community and I see what happens and who they benefit.  Tammy's post was a wonderful way to help non-profits not just for the holidays but throughout the year through your donated goods thst you do not need anymore.  Thanks Tammy!

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Week 4: Soul Bearing ~ Praying for him

Believing in God or Allah is something that is personal and it's something I was taught in Sunday school. when the day comes you will answer for it alone NOT with your family or friends or partners no one just you, the good Lord and God.

I personally believe that to be the case for the future when The Lord returns but that does not stop me for praying for him and the him here is my partner G. We have been through a lot together and everything I have brought to The Lord in prayer (maybe he has too but his not shared that with me so I don't know) has been answered.

I wrote in my previous post that we don't choose who we far in love with, my partner is an "occasional" catholic I am now becoming an "occasional" New Apostolic which is not pleasing me but my circumstances bring me into that, I am not complaining I am merely stating it for the record.

I would like to think and keep believing that the reason my partner usually refuses to come to church with me is because his scared stiff of my dad than to think maybe he doesn't believe or he just prefers not to. I know the answer but I prefer for him to surprise me.

I pray for him as much if not more than I pray for me because I love him and I want God to keep opening up his favours for him maybe I am being selfish here because with what God provides for him I partake too.

If there is one message I would like my readers to take from this is that, prayer is a very powerful too which should not be taken lightly but full heartedly and with great humbleness and love for The Lord.

Take everything to The Lord in prayer.

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Thursday, December 19, 2013

Week 4: Soul Sharing ~ Interracial Couples!!!



I have been asked so many times, why did you decide to date outside your race? It's not a question I care for but it's one I get, a famous quote I am sure your all familiar with "we don't choose who we fall in love with".

My first true boyfriend was black and I loved him truly he loved me and we thought our search for life partners was over, as they say you never know what life will throw in your way until your experiencing it. Life got in the way, my family moved us to another continent were I confess I realised that I was too young to think I had found the one, if indeed I had nothing would have swayed me from that obstacles or not I would still have been able to find my way back because my God wouldn't keep me away from my love unless he was not my love but someone to show love too and nurture.

When we moved to the uk my first true boy friend here was White European, again I thought I had found my love but after praying, believing and hoping I was to find he was not my love I was devastated I decided I was going to date from my race, unfortunately he hurt me and disappointed me bad. Through prayer and patience The Lord helped me find my partner G, I know I should not compare but there so many things that I thought I was not entitled to in my previous relationships that his shown me in abundance. The love emanates from him so brightly that sometimes I pinch my self just to make sure it's not a dream (The movie inception comes to mind). I pray everyday and still the love shows me this is him this is the one, the things this man has done for me I can not even count but I throw a little pray heaven wards to thank the good lord up there for delivery this man to me.

When I look at him I don't seem white man I see a man who loves me, cares for me and cherishes me like a glass that would break if not looked after properly. I remember he ounces told me his mother bless her heart told him and his brothers to always treat a woman the way they would treat her, she told them to cherish, love, protect and care for the woman in their lives like no other. I thank The Lord for this woman for she created these amazing gentlemen with hearts of gold.

I have on many occasions gotten weird looks from my black people when they see me walking or embracing my love, some am sure are just jealous were as others can not understand it. I really don't care what people think about interracial couples love us hate us I ain't loosing sleep over it, the good lord gave me what I have the good lord will help me through it too.

Thank you for reading my post, please let me know your views below in the comments section. Good day, God bless x

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Tuesday, December 17, 2013

{Co~Hosting} Showing some love

Hello my lovelies, I am back again with another wonderful hop. I encourage you to join us and link up your posts. Thank you for always coming back and linking with us. Have fun!!!

This blog hop was born in true "hippie fashion" with the idea of giving, sharing and spreading LOVE in mind. 
There seems to be so much dark in the world (especially on the news) lately so why don't we band together to help spread more of the peace, LOVE & beauty in the world? 
Let's stand together and shine our bright lights of positive energy and overcome all of the darkness
Your Hosts ~
{ and creator & operator at MOONSWAY Homemade Body Care & Cosmetics }
MHM: Facebook - Twitter - Pinterest - Google+ - BlogLovin
Please check out my new adventure by visiting my new pages below!
MOONSWAY: Facebook - Official Website
*Please note that, apparently the checkout page is glitching, so if you do wish to place an order, email me at mhippiemomma@gmail.com and we'll complete the transaction via Paypal. ~*~

***Keena @ Fancy Barbarian **** Facebook - Twitter - Pinterest - Instagram
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Miranda joins us as our newest cohost and we're delighted to have her!
Somehow she manages two blogs AND their social pages, so that alone is impressive! LOL
Please show her what we show best here at #ShowingSomeLove... Give her pages a visit and show some LOVE by liking, following and commenting so she knows you stopped by!
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Week 4: Soul Sharing ~ I am who I am!!


Happy Tuesday!!!
The worse thing that can happen to someone is to change to suit other people and lose themselves in the process, it happens! I have seen it happen and I am pretty certain you have too. I believe change should be a personal decision not one forced upon someone, because the rebellious consequences would be deadly should it ever happen.

I am sure we all have things in our lives that we wish would be different and that's good because that's you making the decision not someone else and please do not misquote me if your parents are making decisions which are for your benefit please adhere to them because they see 10 years in the future for you but us children we usually only see past tomorrow.

I have things in my life that I wish I could change but I have told myself never to change it because it's part of who I am what have gone through and how I came to be who I am.

When I was 3 months old (so am told) I was dropped by my auntie who later on helped raise me and who I dearly love to death. I broke my leg but I got better because my bones miraculously fused back together and I am not disable in any way. From the drop, the only thing I have been left with is a scar on my knee which I remember for years as a teenager I hated to death and wished one day or as I grew older I could have it removed (unfortunately for me I am scared s**t of surgery). I remember when I was a kid with no care in the world I wore short clothes like any normal kid, when I grew up and people used to look at me funny because of my scar I started to feel ashamed and ugly so much that I hid and refused to go out unless my knees were covered and back in the day my parents never allowed us girls to wear trousers only skirts and dresses.

I remember how much I wanted to be like other girls who could wear what ever when ever and people didn't give then pity looks, I dreamt of a day people would not even see the scar they would just see me. When I started seeing my partner G I was so wary that he would not like me if he ever saw my scar, one day he did and he just looked at me and smiled. He saw how I flinched and how uncomfortable I got, I tried to hide the scar and he stopped me and told me I was the most beautiful girl he has ever had the pleasure of going out with and the scar just added the spice to my beauty.

I looked at him and all I saw was sincerity, love and care! From that day on I never looked at my scar the same way, it's never something I am ashamed of anymore but something I embrace and cheer it's my identify those it does not define me wholly. I changed the way I viewed my scar because I wanted to and believed so much that what my partner saw/sees it's how it is. My parents have never once loved me less because of my scar, they know it's there and I am sure they remember quite clearly how I got it but all they see is there daughter alive, happy and well.

I decided to share this with you guys firstly because of my friend  Dharia who shared her story here and secondly because I know how us girls always thinking we are less than other girls who seem to have it all, trust me when I say they don't. Just believe in yourself, be happy with what you have and loved those close to you and don't give the world the power over you. You are different and special in your own way and that's ok, this world is better because we are all different.

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Sunday, December 15, 2013

{Off-Sunday} Romwe xmas sale uptom 80% off!!


Hello there my lovelies!! Happy Sunday, so today am coming to you with a short, quick and simple post in conjuction with the store Romwe.com. I wanted to share this great offer I was informed of by Romwe.com with you guys, I learnt about Romwe via another blogger (am sorry can't remember the name) and when I joined an affiliate program (share a sale <-- seen on Stacey's guest post) the first brand/store I searched for was Romwe and when they accepted my application I was over the moon. I just love there stuff and the sales they have on are crazy you would be foolish to ignore them. Check them out using this link below and let me know what you get, I myself I am placing an order as I type this post.

Thanks again for all your support and your encouragements have received since I started blogging, happy Sunday and a good day to you all.


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Saturday, December 14, 2013

Relationship Advice: Sharing is caring

So last night I was chatting with my partner on the phone when he mentioned something that caught my attention, I asked him about it and he said he thought I knew! (The nerve on him!!!). I calmly and collected said no I did not know because he never told me about it. After he apologised we continued talking when again I learned something I didn't know but this time when I asked his response was "I didn't want to burden you with my problems" I don't know about you but I got upset because as thoughtful as that is he decided for me without asking me first. When you are in a relationship honest, trust come with a little tag called sharing with one another not just the good stuff but the bad stuff too. If I only know of the good stuff how on earth am I going to deal with that one bad thing when it pops it's ugly head?

I understand feeling ashamed, embarrassed even annoyed for whatever you feel or think is an I inconvenience to your partner but if you can't share your most difficult and upsetting thing in your life why do you have that partner in your life? I am sure you can tell from my tone that I am upset and honestly I am but I am mostly saddened because he felt its his burden to deal with no OURS.

I share everything with my partner maybe a bit too much but I want him to know what's going on with me both inside and out, I don't pick and choose because I prefer he heard it from me first and not third parties especially with how people how are out to ruin us.

My advice to anyone who wants it and is going through what I am, don't feel it's best to only share the good stuff because what creates a stronger relationship and partnership is sharing both the good and the bad. Love, trust and honest is usually tested during the hardships in life not always when the going is good.

Thank you for reading my rambling, take care and God bless.

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Friday, December 13, 2013

{Co-Hosting} My Favourite Post Weekend Blog Party!!!



It's Friday the 13th but that's not going to stop us from partying! 

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Say hello to my December team:

Kim from This Ole Mom

Meg from Meg's Menagerie

Melissa from Deliciously Savvy

Miranda from Myra Bev's Corner





Let's SHOW OFF some of those awesome posts from last week!


Stacey loved the recipe from This Silly Girl's Life: "I love sweets more than I should and these just look fabulous!"


Cathy's thumbs up belongs to Scarlett's Excellent Adventures:  "I love eggnog and blending it with one of my favorite breakfast, French Toast, sounds delicious! Perfect breakfast for a cold holiday weekend!"



Melissa's favorite also comes from This Silly Girl's Life:  "OK… so I feel Like I am always picking something from The Silly Girls Life… but seriously…. I did it once again w/out realizing! I saw this post and picked it immediately even though there were many other posts that grabbed my attention afterward. But… I am a big believer in first instincts… and  who does not need a stress reliever this time of year? 2nd…. Who cannot use the occasional Jello Shot! It makes you feel youthful and fun and who cannot use a little of that once in a while? Plus it tastes fabulous! For those who are not accustomed to a normal “shot”, this is the shot for you! Thanks so much… I am going to make these, to help eliminate any unnecessary stress due to the holidays!!!"


Meg chose On A Wing and A Prayer  for her fave:  "I enjoyed the Holiday Joy DIY Air Freshener post by On a Wing and a Prayer. I have recently gotten into using essential oils and making my own natural beauty and cleaning products to reduce the chemicals I'm exposed to. This homemade air freshener will make your home smell like the holidays naturally!"



Miranda's pick goes to 100 lb. Countdown:  "I loved 5 tips on how to get fit with your partner, me and I have been looking for ways to get fit with my fellow."


My favorite goes to Smart Living 365.  What an awesome post on gratitude.  It's perfect for this time of year since it's allowing me to reflect on what I've done in the past.  

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